Yesterday I shared some thoughts with you on having a balanced life. It’s a big deal for nearly every real estate agent I know. They are always looking for a way to keep an active and positive relationship with their family and friends and, at the same time, have a successful business. I shared some tips on how to organize your schedule to allow for that balance and then, at the end of the post, told you a balanced life isn’t actually possible. As Gary Keller would say, it’s a myth.
Gary talks about this myth in is best-selling book The Millionaire Real Estate Agent.
“I’ve found that it is healthier to attempt to lead a counterbalanced life where the issue isn’t that you got out of balance, but how long you stay there. …at times, your life will be out of balance. And, frankly, for Millionaire Real Estate Agents, life can seesaw quite dramatically from balance to imbalance, so it is very important to acknowledge this so you can deal with it.”
The first time I read that I felt like a huge weight was taken off my shoulders. It’s a relief to know that living a balanced life isn’t really possible. It’s all about moving back and forth from one area to the next. He continues.
“You’ll be counterbalancing between or among all the vital areas of your life: work, family, health, spiritual pursuits.”
“No one else can determine how neglecting or overemphasizing an area will impact your enthusiasm and your drive.”
“The truth is, there will be times when work is the priority and you will have to ‘make hay while the sun shines.’ But if you stay overworked and out of balance for too long, you must understand that your energy level will sink and the risk of burnout increases.”
A few years ago an agent told me about a bad experience she had on Christmas Day. She was out of town with her family when one of her sellers called. She said it wasn’t a positive conversation and that call nearly ruined her Christmas. Now, whose fault was that? Was it the seller who had the nerve to call on Christmas Day or the agent who actually picked up the phone? Of course it was the agent, and she knew it too. It became a valuable lesson in creating the balance, or counterbalance, between work and family.
A post on the KW blog last year looks at this issue and they use the “Big Rocks and the Jar” analogy to help us maintain a focus on maintaining a counterbalanced life. You may not be familiar with the story, so here is a quick reminder.
When you decide to put the big rocks in first (family time, vacations, lead generation, etc.) the other things fall into place. It’s when we fill our life with all the other stuff that things get crazy.
Living this type of life requires focus. You have to remind yourself of a couple things… 1) a balanced life isn’t possible. 2) Get the big rocks done first and everything else will fall into place.